We Accept The Love We Think We Deserve

"We accept the love we think we deserve." Stephen Chobosky, The Perks Of Being A Wallflower.

Have you ever wondered why you picked a certain person in your past to be in a relationship with?  A person who later on you wished you had not picked.  Why do we pick the wrong people sometimes?  I believe it comes down to picking the very person with consciously and sometimes subconsciously believe we deserve.  

Unfortunately if we have suffered from a lack of confidence or lower self esteem we will inevitably set the bar low, and for some that bar can be set quite low. This sets us up for relationship disaster.  That is why it is paramount for your well being to increase your confidence and self esteem levels so your bar gets set much higher.

Higher bar, higher quality dates. Higher quality dates will eventually equal a higher quality partner choice which will enable you to have a happier and more productive life.  Trust me when I say if you choose a lower quality partner it will affect you in every arena of your life which includes your money, your well being, your mental health, your physical health and your happiness levels.  

That is why it is sooooooooooooo important to work on yourself if you want to attract a high quality mate into your life.  Do what it takes to improve your confidence.  Improve your self esteem. Typically speaking both abusive and controlling women and men will tune into those who have lower confidence levels and they will attach themselves to you.  After their abuse which sometimes can be hidden and covertly served your way for years you will barely have the strength to crawl out of that relationship and with less confidence that you even had in the beginning.

For those of you who have been thru this you know what I am talking about, and for those of you who have not then take this advice strongly to build yourself into a finely tuned confidence machine that will attract awesome love.